Overkill, maybe?
Alright people, let's get a grip here. He didn't shoot her in the head. He broke up with her -- after six weeks. Yes, I know. They were engaged. But, very very prematurely engaged. Kind of forcefully engaged, if you think about it. Come on - every season of the Bachelor has ended with a proposal. And then a few months later, there's been a break-up -- the huge difference is we're just not usually in the room for it. And yes, it was brutal. But that was also because we -- I'm sorry -- "America" had just seen the image of a happy family, jumping in the pool after a crazily romantic engagement. Then - BAM!! Ten minutes later he's dumping her and she's calling him a bastard! But there were six weeks that actually occurred in between those events. And then yet another six weeks that occurred between that event and tonight's show, in which Jason and Molly showed they've managed to stay together. Well, big deal.
I like Jason a lot. I really really do. I think he's probably the most genuine, sweet and honest man we've ever had on this show. But he's clearly a bit susceptible to falling too quickly and jumping in head first. So for me, the only issue I have with anything that Jason did was proposing to Melissa (or to anyone for that matter) after only a few weeks of dating. BUT, as I've always said, I am almost positive that ABC pressures these guys on all these things -- and maybe even makes them sign something -- to promise to propose at the end of the show. Remember -- funny-man Bob Guinea decided to end his season with a faithful promise to you know, hang out and stuff. That shit did not fly. Of course Jason got down on his knee, with that crazy ring he didn't pay for with the 14,000 diamonds on it and the insane scenery and the tuxes and the fancy dresses and the cameras and all that pressure....man, it's amazing these guys don't end up in rehab by the end of these shows. Oh -- and Jason also had the minor stress of a lovely little visit from DeAnna (courtesy of ABC I have no doubt) to cope with right in the middle of it all!! And who would have thought that would be the least dramatic thing that happened in the finale??
Look, all I'm saying, "America," or whoever you angry people are who think Jason's a jerk for what he did to Melissa -- and I mean, people besides Naomi or other women who Jason might also have dumped recently -- the man did what he had to do. He was honest and he was true to his feelings and he didn't want to lead anyone on further. Make no mistake. I agree that it was very very ---- very --- unfortunate that he was forced to do it live on television. But he really had no other option. What was he supposed to do? Pretend on live television that they were still together? Things were clearly already not ok with them. They hadn't been for weeks. There was no way around it. Was he supposed to fight for a relationship he knew after a few months was definitely not going to work? Fighting for a relationship is very important, but only when you're absolutely sure it's worth fighting for.
Anyway, I just hope SO SO much that Jason and Molly make this thing work for just SO SO many reasons....first of all, duh, I want them to be happy. But mostly, I just cannot stand watching those endlessly nauseating montages of Trista and Ryan building snowmen together anymore as the poster child couple of this show. That woman makes me want to rip my eyes out. Sure, they're happy. They have no personalities!! And yes I know. They are not the only couple anymore. Charlie and Sarah got back together. Big deal. I need a marriage, people! And Jason is just the man to make it happen.....or to freak out and dump her for DeAnna. I give it six more weeks.
Oh -- and PS - I totally called Jillian as the next Bachelorette! Check out my blog post from a few weeks ago. I couldn't be happier about it! She's totally awesome and adorable. Yay Canadian spunky chick!
posted by Laura Roemer at
10:27 PM
2 Comments:
Mmm...I wouldn't say Jason fell too quickly in love with Melissa, as it seemed to me that he had been composing subconsciously (unconsciously?) his own image of an ideal woman from his past experiences with his ex-wife and with DeAnna, and Melissa appeared to embody that image more and more throughout the season. At the final rose when he walked Molly out he perceived Molly's final words as an attempt on that ideal-woman-Melissa image. I think he was extremely lucky that Molly showed her care and love for him at that moment, because the memory of that moment was much of what brought him back to her later. Also in that final rose episode, it was so painful for him to send Molly home because she was the different-new-real love for him as opposed to his same-old-ideal love. But the ideal one, now Melissa, was supposed to cover and heal his old wounds, and the new wound as well, and that's why he rushed to propose to her. Who would've thought his choice would prove to be wrong in just a few weeks? (Well, now we know who: Molly - she Told Him So!) I don't think in the beginning, after proposal, Jason was still thinking of Molly. Something of the real Melissa emerged as so different from his ideal, that he realized he chose wrong. It's good it happened so soon that Molly could come to his rescue. I'm glad he had the courage to ask her for another chance, and I'm glad she loves him so much that she could forgive him and give him that chance :)
Really good point, Valentin! I do think he idealized Melissa and that she couldn't really fulfill that fantasy and also that Molly was closer to chance at a realer relationship. Whether those two make it, who knows...but at least he seems to be following his true feelings. For now.
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