Obviously I have some issues to work on.

Now and forever, there will be women crying in their bedrooms, trying to figure out why "some guy" -- to quote Brad himself -- who seemed to like them so much has suddenly disappeared. All of us have been through this, but not all of us have had to go through it on national television, especially not with the built-in expectation of a marriage proposal. I truly can't imagine how hurt and angry DeAnna must be -- I feel for her. She came hoping for an explanation, and in the back of her mind, hoping that it was all some colossal mistake. Man, we've all been there.

BUT, ladies -- we cannot spend our energy trying to sort out what someone has not yet sorted out themselves. Sure, maybe Brad just didn't really feel it for either of them but it seemed like clearly he did, especially for DD and just couldn't take the pressure. It's actually surprising that this hasn't happened before to one of the Bachelors! Maybe Brad really is one of the ones who is more in touch with his feelings, or more in touch with his fear. Either way, I do believe that he is hurting and confused and pretty messed up over the whole thing. And DeAnna and Jenni are both gorgeous, confident and intelligent women who will both have very happy and successful lives and will surely meet guys who will make them forget all about what's-his-name, I have no doubt. But whether Brad will ever be able to love with his whole self and commit to someone is quite a different story.

And lastly, a note to Bachelor producers: (who are faithful readers of this blog, no doubt).
Trotting out the only two couples (out of the ten or so past unions formed on the show) who are actually still together in such a disgustingly blatant attempt to somehow reassure viewers about the possibility of love or especially, the possibility of love created on television, is insulting and demeaning to your viewers. Well, at least to those of us who could see through it. Shame on you.

Thanks for reading Roemer's Reality this season. For all of you who have been a part of this one, here's wishing you all a wonderful holiday. See you in the Spring! (Even if Brad can't commit, I'm still committed to writing about this crazy ridiculous show).

He's a Bachelor alright...

Will you accept this rose? PSYCH!!!!!!!

Hi my name is Brad Womack and I just wasted eight weeks of your life because I am too f-ing scared to commit. Hey Brad, no one said you HAD to propose....sure, it's implied and it's great for ratings but it certainly doesn't insure a happy future. How about just asking one of the girls to DATE you for a while?? I know, I know...Bob tried that and it was mostly just because he didn't really have feelings for any of them. I guess that's what happened here. I guess it's less likely to believe that just because you get 25 women together who are looking for a relationship, that one of them HAS to be your soul-mate. I guess we just bought into that idea like we've bought into the whole thing....but wait a minute! These relationships almost never last! We already know that! But at least, in the final episode, we get some kind of pay-off!! We get to hope for just a little while that maybe, gosh-darnit, those crazy kids might make it work. And of course we get the satisfaction of thinking we knew the whole time who he was going to pick....what a gip!!!! I mean, I get that he wasn't in LOVE with either of the ladies. I don't really think either of them were REALLY in love either -- I've gone on many times on here about how love is not so easily and flippantly come by as they seem to find it on this show. BUT, I can't believe, judging from what I observed, (albeit edited and produced within a inch of its life), that Brad didn't have genuine feelings for at least ONE of those ladies, and that he could be so sure that there was ZERO future with either one!! How scared is this guy? How much was an act? Is he REALLY looking to settle down? What is his problem? And when exactly did he know that he had no desire to be with EITHER of those two women??? How many words CAN I put in caps??

Will some or any of these questions be answered tonight on the "After the Final Rose" special? I highly doubt it, but I am certainly going to watch and find out.

I can honestly say that it was the best time of my life.

A man and his rose.

Wow, Brad. That's quite a statement. The best time of your life? Really? So it's all downhill from here? True, to go from dating 25 women to only dating one is pretty much a cold dose of reality. Hey, maybe that's why all these Bachelor-born relationships fail? Because of the let-down of being with one person after having so many choices....or maybe it's the fact that the whole show is forced and contrived and ridiculous. (but we love it)

I want them to have a REAL tell-all special, where we find out if he slept with them on the overnight dates and who was a terrible kisser -- real dirt. The hot seat? Give me a break. Ask Hillary if she sought professional help after her mental breakdown! Ask Solisa if her boobs are real and why she feels the need to throw them in everyone's face! Ask Bettina why her parents are such elitist snobs! Come on, people. I guarantee the ratings would go through the roof. Or maybe it would just become the Jerry Springer show.

Anyway, what did we learn? We learned that everyone REALLLLLY hated McCarten, and that maybe that wasn't totally unreasonable. We learned that Hillary bounced back pretty well, but that she still tears up at the drop of a hat, and I still think she would benefit from a good old-fashioned clue. She said, "you know, you just hear what you want to hear." Um, no. Not to the extent where you completely create your own version of reality. That's called a delusion. Oh well, she needs a therapist or a wedding mighty quick.

We also learned that Bettina is incredibly beautiful. Was it just me who thought the show was not doing her justice? I can see now that she's stunning. But, she'd be more attractive if she was able to open up a little bit. And I can't believe she defended her family's behavior! Especially after she heard her father say that he thought she'd never find anyone better than the man she divorced!! I still think that's appalling. Damn right, Brad was defensive -- he was attacked!


Her name was the most interesting thing about her!

And I just want to put it out there that I think Sheena is sweet, but boring boring boring. The girl has no personality and I'll tell you one thing - it's a shame that Brad's twin is married because those two really had something. Also, how was there no mention of Sheena's crazy mother? I would have liked to see some more of her and her wacky ways.

And Chris Harrison, please stop saying that everyone was IN LOVE with Brad. These girls had feelings, yes. Maybe some of them even thought they could be in love with him. But can we stop minimizing the value of actually being in love with someone by making it seem so easy and common? Not every girl who ever cries over a guy is in love with him! Please.

Oh well. As a tell-all special, it was ok. I would've liked more unseen clips and even more trash talking, but I will say that the Solisa montage was brilliant and appreciated.


Does hoop-girl have Brad's heart?

So as always, when the time came and the Bachelor talked about his current state of bliss with guess who, I did my best to try and see into Brad's soul and figure out who he was thinking about....and I got nothing. Although, the question did come to mind -- could Brad be the real deal? The first Bachelor to get engaged, marry, and stay married?? He seems like he could be just the guy to hold on.

So the only thing I had to go on were the clips they played of his journeys with our two girls, and the things he said about them. Even more telling were the little snippets they played of his final speeches to each of them from the finale. Based on all of that evidence, it really looks to me like Jenni has won his heart. There was something about the way he spoke of her and the way he looks when he's with her.... They have had a true spark from the very beginning. And, the clip from next week with DeAnna really sounded like the pre-cursor to a break-up. But, of course, they could be trying to make us think that.

And....I'm not sure what he and Jenni really have in common, besides good chemistry. Plus, she is going to be living somewhere else for the next year. He and DeAnna really seem to have great conversations, they have similar backgrounds and they just seem more realistic as a couple. Does that mean he chose her? Again, my gut is saying Jenni's got him, but my head is rooting for DeAnna. She's smart, tough and knows who she is and she'd be good for him. I think they truly have more long-term potential than he and Jenni would have.

What do you guys think??? I'm dying to know. Please chime in and give me your thoughts!!

Only one more episode left....

She made me look like an idiot and I loved it.

I just had sex with these two hot women in less than 3 days. Awesome.

Short and sweet one tonight, guys. It was a pretty unsurprising episode. The most exciting moment for me was finding out that they're having a "Women Tell All" special again! Last season they inexplicably didn't have one, and I was afraid they had lost their minds and done away with the whole idea! It's my favorite -- they bring back the girls we don't even remember to give their meaningless opinions, play clips of them all fighting and getting trashed, and then Chris Harrison does his patented hard-nosed investigative interviews with all the heart-broken ladies. Can't wait to hear what Hillary has to say for herself. Maybe she's still crying? I know, I know - it's not funny - but I think she has to feel pretty stupid by now, realizing she hardly knew the guy and she acted like someone died.


So pretty! (lose the freakin' hoops)

Okay, so it was overnight date time. This time around they decided to have all three dates in the same location, which was a little too close for comfort if you ask me. What, were they trying to save money? I mean, Brad didn't even have a day off in-between the dates!! I couldn't believe it when Brad started talking about LAST NIGHT with Jenni while he was waiting for Bettina to arrive that morning. That's just gross! I mean, you know they had sex and so, then they wake up, have breakfast, and he's off to f*** someone else??? No ma'am. At least give them a courtesy day off! And, I'm sorry, but I swear that the suites he took Jenni and Bettina to were the same ones. DeAnna's looked totally different, but I don't know -- how many fantasy suites can one hotel have? Yuck.


But I don't understand! We kissed!

Anyway, we all knew that Jenni and DeAnna were going to be the top two. I was surprised that Bettina was so surprised! She tried to play down the whole debacle with her parents, making it seem like they were just worried he didn't really have feelings for her, but that was total crap. They thought he was a low-class bartender or something and they were downright rude. And, SHE was still completely closed, reserved and distant. Maybe she thought she was being all open and emotionally available, but she really wasn't. Intimacy issues anyone?


Bad dress. Good match.

Ok, so prediction time. Here's my thing. This is hardly a slam dunk so it's exciting. And I like both girls -- well, let's just say I don't hate either of them -- so that also makes it harder. I have a slight preference for DeAnna because of her spunk and the way she carries herself. But Jenni is cute as a button too and seems genuine and sweet. And there were moments on both dates that I thought seemed forced and awkward. I'm not sure there is perfect ease and chemistry with either girl. Especially with DeAnna, things didn't seem like they were always flowing naturally. But with Jenni too, they sometimes still seemed like they were on a first date. But I thought it was very telling that he referred to DeAnna as a soulmate, and something about the way he talked about her seemed like he felt something stronger for her. Also, even in the midst of the huge tension of the rose ceremony, he told DeAnna she looked amazing when he handed her the rose. Now I could get crazy psychological and guess that he's saying that to her in order to overcompensate for knowing he's going to eventually let her go....but that might just be me looking a little too deep. (certainly too deep for this show).

So I will go with what's on the surface and give a slight edge to DeAnna, partly because I like her better, and partly because those two just seem a little bit more right. Maybe it's the accents. Besides, Jenni won't stop wearing those hoop earrings, and it's starting to bug me.